Travelling solo – I assumed I might discover myself, however I simply discovered myself bored

Travelling solo - I thought I would find myself, but I just found myself bored

OPINION: Solo journey teaches you about your self, so say the self-important backpackers of their elephant-patterned harem pants and knock-off Raybans.

I travelled solo and my best epiphany was: I’m not match for solo journey.

I assumed I might discover myself, however I simply discovered myself bored.

Name it a weak point, snobbery or neediness or however I’m glad I realised it earlier than blowing 1000’s on a 3 month journey solely to be discovered rocking forwards and backwards in an unsanitary hostel toilet.

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Solo journey is for extroverted, social creatures who sure into new nations, friendships and adventures with a sure optimistic zeal that the whole lot can be OK.

Solo journey is also for the impartial, the fortunately introverted who’s at house and comfortable in their very own firm. It is rising in recognition, for positive, but it surely’s simply not rising on me: here is why.

Who's going to help you when you miss the return flight? Nobody. Solo travel sucks.


Who’s going that can assist you while you miss the return flight? No person. Solo journey sucks.

I get it, it is thrilling.

You left the whole lot: your sub-par job, your sub-par companion and your over-priced rented room and traded all of it for, properly, you are undecided but however you may determine it out alongside the best way – you’ve got acquired your first 4 nights booked in Bangkok /Santiago/Ho Chi Minh Metropolis, what may go fallacious?

The backpackers was the very best rated on You are travelling like journey needs to be.

Vacationer? Bah, no! You are a wanderer, a lonely ranger, an adventurer. Who wants all-inclusives? You may discuss to anyone, as long as they don’t seem to be honeymooners. Locals most popular.

Besides it is nothing like that. You may as a substitute share drinks with different backpackers on the rowdy hostel bar after which all do one thing regrettable. You’ll be a magnet for hawkers, however true locals would run a mile.

I travelled solo and my greatest epiphany was: I am not fit for solo travel.


I travelled solo and my best epiphany was: I’m not match for solo journey.

However, hey, you place your self on the market, made small discuss with different loners holding up the bar. Repeated the identical backpacker mantra: “The place have you ever been, the place are you going, can I come?” Successful. 

I imply I can nod alongside politely, however there’s solely so many inane one-sided conversations about AFL, the subtleties of trance music or waitressing etiquette I can endure by.

You are so exhausted from having to place your self on the market, however who wants sleep when there’s new folks to impress, and their plans to ask your self on (yeah, get used to that).

This is not what HostelWorld advised me would occur: “You may develop into a magnet at no cost spirits similar to you. The experiences you may share will bond you quicker than ten years of friendship again house.”

What sort of experiences rapidly tie you to newfound journey crew quicker than your hometown mates? Accomplices to an unintentional manslaughter involves thoughts. Both that otherwise you’ve acquired some sub-par mates again house too.

And when instances get powerful, the hostel buddies and the tour tagalongs are gone: disappeared in a fog of chem-trails or in a single day bus diesel fumes.

Kiwi travel blogger Anita Dykstra is a staunch defender of solo travel.

Kiwi journey blogger Anita Dykstra is a staunch defender of solo journey.

If in case you have managed to court docket a journey crew who you would not instantly swap to your mates from house, I applaud you – and am somewhat jealous. In additional probability it is a assortment of Fb mates you may probably by no means see once more. Rinse. Repeat.

Solo journey converts wax lyrical in regards to the freedom to do what you need, while you need. No person to arm-twist into becoming a member of you for that dawn hike.

Spontaneity reigns. Need to guide that last-minute flight to Egypt, go for it. Who’s gonna cease you? No person.

Who’s going to get excited within the build-up? No person.

Who’s going to take pleasure in that room improve you scored? No person.

Women are naturally drawn to the freedom of solo travel.


Girls are naturally drawn to the liberty of solo journey.

Who’s going that can assist you while you miss the return flight? No person.

Who’s going to need to reminisce about all of it while you get house? No person.

I am fortunate sufficient to have travelled to some jaw-droppingly spectacular locations for work and I at all times consider who I might need to share the expertise, adrenaline, drink or bizarre native meals with.

“Are you able to consider I am right here” simply can not compete with “Are you able to consider we’re right here”.

And reminiscing in ten years time about your wild tenting on a tropical island and even the two-hour interrogation on the Ukranian border isn’t a one thing many solo wanderlusting warriors can do.

Inform me if I am doing it fallacious.

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