DEAR ABBY: I’ve been finest pals with “Mickey” for about 5 years. We spend each day collectively and exit to dinner/films/occasions, and so on. He sleeps over at my home, and I cook dinner for him virtually each night time.
When our friendship began we had been intimate a few instances however have been strictly platonic ever since. The issue is, I’m in love with him. He is aware of how I really feel, and though he claims he doesn’t love me, he continues to spend each waking second with me and is at all times attempting to higher me. We do just about the whole lot a pair would do, minus the bodily contact. Everyone assumes we’re a pair.
I feel I must also point out that Mickey is considerably of a intercourse addict. It makes me self-conscious that he’s always excited about intercourse however isn’t turned on by me even after we sleep in the identical mattress.
I don’t wish to lose him. I worth the bond we share and what we have now collectively, however I’m always excited about how a lot I like him and wish to be with him. I even began figuring out on the health club, considering possibly my current weight achieve was the issue.
I do know he “loves” me, however he isn’t interested in me. I’m afraid if certainly one of us begins relationship another person, our friendship will take a success. Please give me some recommendation.
GIRL IN LOVE IN CONNECTICUT
DEAR GIRL IN LOVE: So long as you’ve gotten Mickey as your main preoccupation, you’ll not begin relationship anybody else. It’s worthwhile to cease considering that his lack of need for you is your fault, as a result of it isn’t. Though it is going to be painful to name a halt to what’s happening so you’ll be able to meet somebody who CAN offer you what you want, that’s what it is best to do. The connection you’re in is masochistic. You’re getting used, and it’s not honest to you.
DEAR ABBY: A number of years again, my 60-something-year-old single sister relocated from a special state to a mile from my residence. Since then, MY husband has grow to be HER husband. If one thing breaks, leaks or wants restore, she calls us. I “get” to deal with the simple stuff, and hubby does the heavy-duty stuff.
I gave her our driving garden mower and acquired a more moderen mannequin for us. There was nothing fallacious with the mower we gave her, however she known as us, crying, that it wouldn’t begin. Hubby spent a number of hours of his someday off attempting to get it working, to no avail.
He instructed her she wanted to name a restore particular person. As an alternative, she purchased a spark plug and a gasoline filter and began viewing on-line do-it-yourself movies so she might deal with it. She mentioned she “hopes” she will repair it so “he received’t have to return and attempt to repair it once more.” I’m able to explode! I really feel like we’re being taken benefit of. Assist!
SICK OF SIS IN THE SOUTH
DEAR SICK: Since you really feel you and your husband are being taken benefit of, the subsequent time your sister asks on your husband’s handyman companies, clarify that his day without work is proscribed and “counsel” AGAIN that she name an expert. For those who want to be extra useful, as a result of she’s comparatively new to the realm, ask a few of your folks in the event that they know somebody who’s reliable and competent.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Write Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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